How LoveGraft Works

AI-powered relationship analysis grounded in decades of clinical research. Upload your WhatsApp chat and get science-backed insights in minutes.

Three Simple Steps

Export Your WhatsApp Chat

Open WhatsApp on your phone, go to the chat you want to analyse, tap the three dots (Android) or the contact name (iOS), and select "Export Chat" without media. This creates a .txt or .zip file containing your conversation history.

Upload to LoveGraft

Send the exported file to our WhatsApp bot or upload it directly on lovegraft.com. Your file is processed securely — we never store your chat data on our servers.

Get Your AI Analysis

Our AI reads through your conversation and produces a comprehensive relationship report covering health scores, communication patterns, red flags, psychology insights, and more.

The Science Behind the Analysis

LoveGraft's analysis is grounded in the research of Dr. John Gottman, whose lab at the University of Washington studied thousands of couples over 40 years. His research identified specific communication patterns that predict relationship outcomes with remarkable accuracy.

The Four Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse

Gottman identified four destructive communication patterns that are the strongest predictors of relationship breakdown. Our AI scans your conversations for signs of:

Criticism — Attacking your partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviour
Contempt — Sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye-rolling, and mockery that signals disgust
Defensiveness — Deflecting responsibility, making excuses, or counter-attacking during conflict
Stonewalling — Withdrawing from interaction, shutting down, or going silent during disagreements

Beyond the Four Horsemen, our analysis examines the ratio of positive to negative interactions. Gottman's research found that stable relationships maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative exchanges during conflict. Our AI measures this balance across your entire conversation history.

Privacy by Design

Your privacy is central to how LoveGraft operates. We built the system so your data is never stored on our servers:

Chat files are processed in real-time and discarded after analysis
No chat content is saved to any LoveGraft database
AI providers are configured to not use your data for training
Results exist only in your browser session — once you close the tab, they're gone

Important: Because we don't store your data, make sure to download or screenshot your analysis results before closing the page. They cannot be recovered.

Who Is It For?

People questioning whether their relationship is healthy
Those who suspect manipulative or toxic communication patterns
Couples wanting an unbiased perspective on how they communicate
Anyone curious about attachment styles and love languages in their conversations

Ready to Analyse Your Chat?

Upload your WhatsApp export and get science-backed relationship insights.

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