How LoveGraft Works

AI-powered relationship analysis grounded in decades of clinical research. Upload your WhatsApp chat and get science-backed insights in minutes.

Three Simple Steps

Export Your WhatsApp Chat

Open WhatsApp on your phone, go to the chat you want to analyse, tap the three dots (Android) or the contact name (iOS), and select "Export Chat" without media. This creates a .txt or .zip file containing your conversation history.

Upload to LoveGraft

Send the exported file to our WhatsApp bot or upload it directly on lovegraft.com. Your file is processed securely and deleted automatically within days — we hold it only as long as the analysis needs it.

Get Your AI Analysis

Our AI reads through your conversation and produces a comprehensive relationship report covering health scores, communication patterns, red flags, psychology insights, and more.

The Science Behind the Analysis

LoveGraft's analysis is grounded in the research of Dr. John Gottman, whose lab at the University of Washington studied thousands of couples over 40 years. His research identified specific communication patterns that predict relationship outcomes with remarkable accuracy.

The balance of positive to negative

Gottman's research found that stable relationships maintain roughly a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative exchanges. That balance is the signal we measure, across your whole conversation history rather than a single argument.

Warmth — affection, appreciation, support, and interest in each other's day
Friction — tense exchanges, complaints that land badly, conversations that get shut down
Repair — apologies, reaching out after a row, and what actually works for you two
Serious concerns — control, coercion, or reality-denial, reported separately and never mixed in with ordinary friction

We deliberately do NOT try to label each exchange with a clinical category. Deciding from a text message whether someone was being contemptuous or defensive means guessing at a state of mind the message does not record, and we found that guess was wrong often enough to move someone's result. Counting warmth against friction is a smaller claim, and one the evidence can actually support.

Privacy by Design

Your privacy is central to how LoveGraft operates. Analysing a chat means we have to upload it, so we hold it only as long as the analysis needs, then delete it automatically:

Your chat file is deleted within 2 days (7 days for WhatsApp bot uploads)
Your finished report is kept for 90 days so we can support you and improve the analysis, then deleted
AI providers are configured to not use your data for training
Never sold, never shared for advertising, never used to train AI models — and you can ask us to delete everything sooner at support@lovegraft.com

Important: Our retention is for support and quality, not a backup for you — make sure to download or screenshot your analysis results before closing the page.

Who Is It For?

People questioning whether their relationship is healthy
Those who suspect manipulative or toxic communication patterns
Couples wanting an unbiased perspective on how they communicate
Anyone curious about attachment styles and love languages in their conversations

Ready to Analyse Your Chat?

Upload your WhatsApp export and get science-backed relationship insights.

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